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Monday, May 6, 2013

Facebook: Fears or Fact


Facebook Fears: Fact or Fiction?
How to communicate with your child about social media

There are many questions we as parents are thrown nowadays that our parents never had to answer. Most of them revolve around social media. What once was viewed as a ‘distraction’ or merely another way to ‘waste brain cells’ has now evolved into the mainstream source of information and communication for everyone under 30 and most of us between 31 and 65. It is especially appealing for the iY Generation (those born after 1990). This generation has never known a world without constant streaming, consistent connectivity and electronic attachments (iPods, laptops, iPads, computers and phones).

When my son was ten his best friend moved to the other side of the U.S. Knowing that it is hard for my son to connect well with his peers, I felt it was important for them to stay in touch. After learning his best friend had a Facebook account, I begrudgingly agreed to let my son have one too. Now, before everyone starts sending me hate-mail and “but don’t you know…” allow me to also stress that I firmly believe that we as parents of the iY Generation need to embrace new ways of communicating with our children. This doesn't mean giving them free reign, but rather a safe, positive social experience using these important points:

Facebook Fears: Fact or Fiction?
Facebook works because it appeals to every demographic: teens use it to post pictures about themselves, post where they are, or send invites. The twenty-somethings tend to use it to share their opinions and new blogs, pics and posts. The 30- to 40-somethings are connecting with friends they've lost touch with since getting married and having children. They also use it to swap advice and recipes and brag about their children. Incessantly bragging about their children. Which is great for the grandparents’ group: they use it to stay in touch with their grandchildren (via mom, usually) and to share endless amounts of political cartoons and terribly-presented but well-meaning quotes.

While none of this poses a threat on its own, commercialism is rearing its ugly head and forging through Facebook like a bull in a china shop. Businesses see endless amounts of opportunity and are attempting to disguise themselves as innocuous pages to “like”. I should know: I manage six Facebook pages as part of my job as a Social Media Manager. The goal is to get something posted that others will share and drive traffic a certain way for the most exposure. Which is great if your Aunt Suzanne “likes” a page called “I Love Horses” and shares their posts. But it’s not so great when “I Love Horses” suddenly shares a post from a more, well, adult page and that post accidentally shows up in Aunt Suzanne’s feed, and your 14 year old sees it.

Become Facebook Friends
If your son or daughter wants to be on Facebook, friend them! (I’m going to take an educated guess here and assume you have a Facebook account.) For your younger child, it’s a good way of keeping tabs on who is following them – while making sure you stress the importance of only friending people you both know – and who they are following. Check in every once in a while on their friends and the pages they've liked. Most pages are harmless and heavily regulated, but every once in a while more adult-themed pages get created and spread before Facebook shuts them down.

If your older teenager wants to be on Facebook, you’re going to have to make a decision: on the one hand you will want to respect their privacy. On the other, you will want to make sure they are safe from internet predators and potentially harmful interactions. Only you can decide whether to be your teenager’s “friend” or “acquaintance” based on the level of trust you both have. If they are going to want to post something that mom and dad shouldn't see, perhaps they shouldn't post it at all. Trust should be earned, but it also has to be maintained. If you find your daughter talking to a stranger who goes only by “Bob the Man” you may want to ask a few pointed questions.

Facebook Etiquette
With this new form of communication there is also a new set of socially acceptable (and non-acceptable) rules of etiquette. Share a continuous, streaming conversation about your child’s etiquette. I personally feel there is an incredible lack of respect for individuals on the internet. Pixels have replaced people and somehow that has translated into a severe lack of mental-to-verbal filters. People are more than willing to tell you the very first thing that comes to their mind, regardless of tact and even relevance.

Explain Expressions and Opinions
This doesn't mean you have to censor everything. Part of growing up is learning from mistakes. Don’t stifle your child’s opinion altogether. Instead, teach them how to adequately express themselves. This goes both ways: remind them not to get too upset about someone else’s post or another teen’s comment. For all the emoticons and symbols out there, sarcasm still doesn't always translate well through the internet. There are those who can do it and those that just can’t.

Fun with Facebook
No matter how you choose to navigate the social media scene with your child, remember the most important part about it: to have fun! My son has kept in great contact with his best friend even though they are on opposite sides of the country. I stay in touch with his best friend’s father, too. We make sure our tweens are having fun, communicating well by articulating themselves in a positive way.

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Story Chain!

We've been to the library, we've exhausted our shelves. So when Sarah asked me, "mom, can we read something DIFFERENT tonight?" I had a different idea!

My children and I sat in a circle. I started off with "Once upon a time there was a very lonely, very purple, little worm....." and asked Sarah to say the next sentence, then her brother the following. We passed off this verbal story chain until we were all giggling and had forgotten what the story was even about. It was a GREAT night - and I think we've started a tradition.

Thursday, May 26, 2011

A Few Good Ideas

I wrote these in various places at various times, but thought a collective bunch here would be helpful.

Do you have a little artist at home that is making more art than you can display? Or, do you feel terrible about throwing some of it away, but don't know where to keep it all? Solution: take a picture of their artwork before you toss it. That way, you have a 'record' of it, and they can view it at any time, but won't feel bad when it's recycled! Make a slideshow of them and have a Grand Opening!

Is it raining in your neck of the woods too? That doesn't mean our children can't stay active in both mind and body: build an indoor puppet stage and put on a show! Or, have your children help you make banana muffins - they'll never know you're really teaching them about measurements and weights.

Are you ready for summer? I know the kids are counting down the days! Don't forget to stock up on some summer reading. They're more inclined to pick up a book if it's readily available to them.

Don't throw away the bananas no one quite got to in time: if they are just on the verge of going bad, peel them, cut them into chunks and freeze them in a ziploc bag. When the time comes, put them in your fruit smoothies. They'll stay cold longer, and you will use less ice.

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Summer Countdown

Are your children counting down the weeks, days and minutes until school is out and summer can officially begin? I know most of you already have signed up your children for summer camp, or little league, or swim lessons, or.... you get the idea. But what about those of you that don't have the money? Or those of you that think a 'staycation' will be the best thing for your family this year? I know we don't want to get bored during the summer; and we want each day to be exciting and productive.

Check back with me often, as I will try to have fun, inexpensive (or free) things to do with your children that will not only chase away their boredom, but will help them (and you) stay in shape, and keep their brains active.

Here's one of my favorite places to look for inspiration: http://www.ceomom.com/

Monday, May 9, 2011

Summer Fit Learning


Look what I've discovered! This is GREAT!This will focus all my goals and ideals for this summer into one package. I confess, I am partial to the Summer Fit Learning Series. Have a look:

Mother's Day Weekend

This past weekend was full of fun! On Saturday I took the children with me to our Parkway. It is a long, meandering stretch of sidewalk that follows the Jordan River through town for miles and miles. The children rode their bikes while I ran along side them. They LOVED it (and didn't even realize they were getting exercise!). At one point, I told them to go the long way around, while I took the shorter route (I know, I know, but they're on BIKES for crying out loud! Give a girl a break!); unfortunately, my son - who took the lead - took a wrong turn, and I ended up chasing them down, at full tilt speed for a good quarter of a mile before catching up to them. By the time I did, I wheezed out "You.... were... supposed... to ... turn... back... there....*gasp*!" To which my son replied, a little TOO calmly "But Mom, this mistake was a GOOD one because it meant you got EXTRA exercise in."

As for Mother's Day itself: well, my daughter was SO excited to give me what she'd made in her first grade class, she almost couldn't wait until the official Mother's Day to do it. She had done SO much! A card, a song, and best of all, a homemade book that she illustrated and wrote herself. She couldn't wait to show me that she "made books just like you, Mom!"

My son's teacher (3rd grade) didn't bother to help the children do anything for Mother's Day, but he was not deterred. He got up early and made me a paper flower in a paper vase that stood up all on it's own. It's beautiful because it's homemade and he chose my favorite colors - and he didn't wait for prompting of any kind.

These are the kinds of things I hope my children retain as adults: the sense of appreciation and sharing of positive energy to those that touch their lives; a sense of play and learning from mistakes. In short, I am trying my best to teach them a sense of not only responsibility and education, but a sense of self: of who they are and who they COULD become. The potential is endless. They just need the tools. I hope to share those tools with you, if you like!


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